A subject many find difficult to discuss, and which some women will get downright emotional about, is that of our continuing role

as breeders.

In Ireland this has been particularly apparent to me. As I have travelled around this country for five weeks I have met and seen so many amazing women.
Strong women.
Beautiful women. 
Adventurous women. 
Kind women.

Additionally, I have met a fair share of professional women. Executives running their own international businesses, career artists making a living from their creativity, women in broadcast media, women in the tech industry, health care professionals, even a couple of talented architects.
Yet many of them shared the pressure they feel to be a “successful” woman while also being a “super mommy”. This is not new, I know that. I felt those same pressures myself. In the 1980’s. However, I thought we’d somehow gone beyond all that.
Yet here they are, shining women, possibly talking on cell phones, pushing prams, riding herd over two or three other young ones, questioning themselves: “To breed or not to breed? Is that is where our worth still lies”. 


Ireland, long anxious about what they call their “brain drain” (the term used to represent the numbers of young, educated people choosing to leave Ireland to live and work in other countries), might want to transform some of that anxiety into educating and supporting its women, professional or not, who feel the pressure to pump out babies as if there is no such thing as global resource depletion.

Yes, I understand that men are part of the equation. I also fully get that this problem is not unique to Ireland. We have plenty of women running the same sad path in the U.S.
However, Ireland tops all other EU countries for birth rate with an average of 3 babies per woman, married or not. 1/3 of those babies are now being born to women who are single.

As a single mother myself for a number of years, I commend these women’s commitment and courage. It is damn hard work.
Still, while the average may be “3 babies per woman” (yes, I did see a lot with that exact number), there are definitely sisters who are going well beyond.
Many of the people I spoke with blame it on the Catholic church and it’s outmoded values around birth control. Others blame the government for its Draconian laws around abortion. These things may be true, but ultimately, its the women themselves who are the ones making that choice to breed.

I suspect some of my readers are going to become angry with me over this post. I am sorry if you choose to become offended. However, my sentiments are not a secret and I am not going to keep quiet.
I think it is irresponsible, in this day and age, to choose to bear more than two children, the number required to keep growth balanced with the death rate, in the hope of slowing our world’s rampant overpopulation.
If you want more children, I support your thinking. There are hundreds of kids out there who need loving, safe families. You do not have to keep spinning your own genetic blueprint in order to have a large family. Foster or adopt. Everyone will be better off for it.
Okay. The next part: I understand the cultural and class issues connected to birth rates. I get that I hold this opinion from a position of privilege. It doesn’t matter. I feel strongly about this: our world’s resources simply cannot sustain this level of entitled breeding.
I am not anti-pregnancy. I say all of this as a woman who loved being pregnant. I remember my own times as a pregnant woman as being two of the most spiritual and magical times of my life. I loved my changing body. I delighted in the fact that I was creating beautiful, intelligent, amazing human beings.
I gave birth to my two at home, felt such peace while nursing them that I continued until each of them was nearly two, that they might receive full health benefits of mother’s milk. So I get it. It’s a beautiful feeling, unique to woman born women. Just limit it to twice, please. For everyone’s sake.

(Aware Irish woman with her two)
It’s just that these past weeks, seeing so many women, with so many children, as though they have no responsibility for the fate of the rest of human kind, has agitated my thinking. 
Yes, Ireland is a female country. It has honored the Goddess for centuries. 
But as I have listened to women’s doubts and anxieties about the issue of breeding versus developing a new identity for Irish women, it has made my heart ache.
Yes, my sisters, it is possible to have it all. But there is a price.
Do you really need to?

Indeed, it is estimated that more than 16% of the island was originally bogland, which, in addition to turf, or peat, produces a habitat for a unique array of plants and animals. This includes Asphodel, Heathers, Deer Sedge, Purple Moor Grass,




(this photo, taken off the web captures the scope better than my humble pictures).
Hard work leading to a romanticized image of the rural Irish peasant
Sisters performing a critical service


One of many of the peat fired electrical plants being subsidized across the island
Born na Mona approved 


who is also associated with fertility and the River Boyne (where Newgrange, Knowth and Howth are located, some 40 miles east of the Sliabh na Caillighe hills). 


This is in contrast to the art found at Newgrange, Howth and Knowth, which has been described as geometric and mathematical.







None of these has been excavated or opened, making this hill a truly “thin” place for those willing to make the effort to visit it.




The man I spoke with who has been doing all of the masonry repair on the castle itself told me that during the height of the estate, there were 57 gardeners living and working on the grounds.
Here, we are looking across the lawn to what was originally the Head Gardener’s home. It is now where Beverly and Jonathan live. The cottage where I am staying has been created out of a line of smaller cottages where the Master gardening team would have lived. 
You can see the remnants of a fireplace in the back
You can see why it was such a gift. Look at those Oaks!
passing the ruins of this gatekeeper’s cottage
and heading toward the river
She was so fast that I barely had time to catch her image.

The house in it’s heyday
in order to feed the starving people who lived on and worked his land. 




A few of the ladies enjoy a pleasant afternoon
some of the house help getting a “break”
the dining room







(historical photo of the ruins taken by unknown person)
scaffolding everywhere

same metal gate, original chain even still in place 




Every castle has one. It’s a form of defense. If enemies managed to get past the mote and breach the gate, boiling water or scalding sand, then rocks and knives, would be thrown down the hole onto them to prevent them from getting up those narrow stairs. Contrary to what we see in movies, boiling oil was rarely used as it was quite expensive and precious. 


with a nicely appointed kitchenette


Ahhh, yeah, that movie; the one about love.
They say the rock formation took on the form of her head to honor her.
Well done, Ireland!
I had to go down there and sit awhile, looking out to sea. 




no matter what, the place is spectacular.





I disappoint, though I give them each a good scratch behind the ears.
are brooding quietly in their stone cottage, safe from the foxes and weasels who would love a warm bite.




looking away at the summits of Turloughmore




with occasional small shrubs and grasses that eventually get eaten by roaming goats and sheep. 

Poulnabrone Dolman 






Looking one way down the one street.
looking the other way
Tig Bhric.
I’d stopped in his new gallery on the Wild Atlantic Way a couple of days earlier and fallen in love with his masks. But at a starting price of $700 they were not for the likes of me.
I spent one of those rare, and oh, so precious, sun filled days on it.

admiring the patterns in the sand

the very excellent Linda Madeira, who is a wise woman, Ayurvedic massage therapist and professional singer, with her partner, Stephen, who is a traditional music session player of some renown as well as a gifted painter.
I had a comfortable bed and slept very well in it.
which was recently erected.